If you’ve spent your life being told you’re too sensitive, this episode is for you. Monique explores the research behind high sensitivity — why roughly one in five people are wired to feel and process the world more deeply — and why the problem was never the sensitivity itself. It was the shame we learned to wrap around it. This isn’t about fixing how you feel. It’s about finally understanding it.
In Your Right Mind
with Monique Rhodes
A Bite-Sized Podcast Packed with Inspiration and Wisdom
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You love them. You’d do anything for them. So why does an hour with certain family members leave you more drained than a twelve-hour work day? In this episode, Monique explains the real reason the people closest to us have the most power to undo us — and it has nothing to do with weakness or immaturity. If you’ve ever driven home from a family gathering wondering what just happened to you, this one is for you.
There’s something you did — maybe years ago, maybe more recently — and no matter how much time passes, you can’t seem to put it down. In this episode, Monique unpacks why self-forgiveness is so much harder than we’re told it should be, and what’s really keeping you locked in self-punishment. This isn’t about excusing what happened. It’s about finally understanding the difference between guilt that teaches you something and shame that just keeps you stuck.
It’s been years, and something can still catch you off guard and knock the wind out of you. This episode is for the part of you that’s been quietly ashamed of still feeling it — grief, heartbreak, an old loss — long after you think you’re supposed to be done. There is no timeline. There never was. And this episode explains why.
You already know you’re too hard on yourself. You’ve known it for years. But knowing it hasn’t made it stop — because the real reason behind that relentless inner critic isn’t what most people think. This episode goes underneath the self-criticism to where it actually comes from, and what it would take to finally change your relationship with the voice that never lets you rest.
A dark or disturbing thought arrived out of nowhere and now you can’t stop wondering what it says about you. This episode is the conversation most people never get to have: what intrusive thoughts actually are, why they happen to the most conscientious people, and why the thought itself is not the problem. You are not your worst thought — and this episode will help you actually believe that.
You’ve told yourself a hundred times to stop caring what people think. You know, logically, that you can’t control what anyone thinks of you. And yet — the worry is still there, shaping decisions, stealing sleep, quietly running the show. This episode is about why it’s so hard to actually stop, what your brain is really trying to protect you from, and the shift that finally loosens its grip.
You say you want things to change. And you mean it. So why does part of you keep pulling the brakes just when things start to move? This episode names the thing most people won’t say out loud — that staying stuck has real payoffs — and offers a kinder, more honest way to understand your own resistance before you try to fight through it.
There’s a version of you that got decided a long time ago — and it’s been running the show ever since. This episode looks at the gap between what’s actually true about you and the story you’ve been telling yourself, and why that gap is where everything either opens up or quietly closes down. If you’ve ever felt like you keep bumping into the same ceiling, this one is for you.
You’ve tried to change before. You went big, you started strong, and then life happened and the whole thing fell apart — again. This episode is about why that pattern keeps repeating, and why the answer is almost embarrassingly small. Monique explores the science behind why dramatic gestures don’t stick, and what it actually takes to build
something that lasts.
Most of us spend a huge amount of our lives trying to make people understand us. The long explanation. The third re-phrase. The 3am perfect sentence. The screenshot we send to a friend. The argument we have with our partner for the fifth time.
We think we’re looking for resolution. We’re actually looking for something else. And in this episode, Monique names it — and offers a way to put it down that will quietly change your relationships and your nervous system at the same time.
In this episode:
— The hidden hunger underneath the constant need to be understood
— Why even when people finally agree, the relief only lasts an hour
— Why some people in your life are simply not built to see what you see — and why that doesn’t mean the relationship is broken
— A small, surprisingly powerful practice for witnessing yourself before you go hunting for one outside
There are two kinds of calm. Only one of them is actually calm.
If you have always been the steady one, the soft-voiced one, the one everyone goes to in a crisis, this episode might land differently than you expect. Because some of us are calm because we have worked through what we feel — and some of us are calm because we have spent decades sitting on it.
The difference matters. And it shows up, eventually, in the body.
In this episode:
— The two kinds of calm and how to tell them apart
— Why suppressed anger costs you your boundaries, your desire, and your aliveness
— What the body keeps on your behalf when you don’t
— A small five-minute experiment to find out what you’ve been carrying
— What to do if what comes up is bigger than you expected
If you’ve been writing a gratitude list every morning and nothing in your life feels any different, this episode is for you.
Most gratitude practice is performance dressed up as practice. A list of words that never made it into the body. And it’s why people can do it for years and feel exactly the same.
There is one word missing. One. Once you put it in, the whole practice changes — and it becomes the foundation of a happiness baseline that actually holds.
In this episode:
— Why a gratitude list on its own doesn’t move anything
— The one word that turns gratitude from performance into practice
— How to drop out of the head and into the felt experience
— What spiritual bypass actually looks like
— A one-thing-a-day practice you can start today
We keep blaming our phones. We keep blaming dopamine. I want to tell you something true that nobody seems willing to say out loud.
Your phone is not the problem. Your phone is the solution to a much bigger problem nobody wants to name. And until you name it, no amount of screen time settings, no amount of digital detoxing, is going to do a single thing.
In this episode I unpack what the phone is actually protecting you from, the first time I had to look at it in myself on a silent retreat, and the small daily practice that changes everything.
If you have been on a healing journey for years and you are still not okay, I do not think you need more healing. I think the healing is the problem.
This episode is for anyone who has read the books, done the courses, sat with the therapists, and still wakes up wondering what is wrong with them.
I unpack why the project of fixing yourself is part of what keeps you stuck, the sentence that finally broke me out of it, and one small experiment to try this week.
You are not a project. You are a person.
I’m going to say the thing nobody in your life will say to you.
The reason you keep saying yes — the reason you give and give and end up empty — is not because you are a kind person. It is because you are frightened. And until you can see that clearly, nothing changes.
In this episode I unpack the difference between kindness and the survival reflex that looks like kindness from the outside, why most people-pleasing advice doesn’t work, and the small, hard question to ask yourself the next time you say yes.
This is a different kind of episode. No list. No three takeaways. Just one conversation about something I think we don’t talk about enough — the particular pain of wanting today to be different than it is.
The mood you woke up in. The argument that’s still sitting in your chest. The day that already feels heavy when nothing has even really happened yet. We’re going to sit with this together, gently, and I’m going to offer something I learned the hard way.
Take your time with this one. It’s not a quick listen.
If you grew up being the one who kept everyone calm, you didn’t choose it. It was assigned to you. And the role you played as a child often becomes the role you play everywhere — at work, in relationships, in friendships.
Today I want to talk about what it actually costs to be the family peacemaker. Why your nervous system probably still scans every room. Why you can’t relax when other people are tense. Why “I’m fine, don’t worry about me” comes out of your mouth before you’ve even checked whether it’s true. And what it might look like to gently put the job down.
You’ve been told to set boundaries. You’ve tried setting boundaries. And somehow you’re still exhausted, still over-explaining, still feeling like you have to defend the smallest “no.” So today I want to push back on the most-recommended advice in the wellness world and tell you what I actually think happens when you keep being told that the answer to other people’s behaviour is just to draw a clearer line.
There’s a deeper conversation underneath this one, and we’re going to have it. By the end of this episode I want you to walk away with a different way of thinking about the energy you keep handing over without realising.
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Everything Will Be Alright : Manifesting Reality With Your Thoughts
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Fly Me To The Moon : Why Small Gestures Matter
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A Reflection On Depression
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