This episode is for anyone quietly mourning a version of their life that didn’t happen — the relationship, the path, the self they thought they’d be by now. We’re naming a grief that rarely gets acknowledged, and exploring what it actually takes to step into the life you have.
In Your Right Mind
with Monique Rhodes
A Bite-Sized Podcast Packed with Inspiration and Wisdom
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If you’re the person everyone else leans on — the one who tracks, anticipates, and holds it all together — this episode is for you. We’re talking about the invisible cognitive weight of always being the responsible one, why it quietly erodes your sense of self, and what it actually takes to put something down.
When things are good, do you find yourself bracing for what’s coming? That low hum of vigilance underneath the happiness — scanning, waiting, not quite letting yourself land in the good — is one of the quietest and most exhausting forms of anxiety there is. In this episode, Monique names it, traces it to its roots, and offers a way to start actually inhabiting your own life instead of standing guard outside of it.
That quiet voice that says everyone else has it sorted and you’re the only one winging it? It has a name — and it’s not the truth about you. In this episode, Monique unpacks the impostor phenomenon, why it affects the most capable people the hardest, and what’s actually underneath the fear of being found out. This one will make you feel less alone and more honest with yourself all at once.
If you’ve ever been in the middle of a panic attack and didn’t know what was happening to your body, this episode is for you. Monique breaks down what a panic attack actually is — not as a sign that something is wrong with you, but as your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do — and walks you through what genuinely helps in the moment. This is the episode you’ll want to send to someone who’s scared and doesn’t know where to start.
If you’ve spent your life being told you’re too sensitive, this episode is for you. Monique explores the research behind high sensitivity — why roughly one in five people are wired to feel and process the world more deeply — and why the problem was never the sensitivity itself. It was the shame we learned to wrap around it. This isn’t about fixing how you feel. It’s about finally understanding it.
You love them. You’d do anything for them. So why does an hour with certain family members leave you more drained than a twelve-hour work day? In this episode, Monique explains the real reason the people closest to us have the most power to undo us — and it has nothing to do with weakness or immaturity. If you’ve ever driven home from a family gathering wondering what just happened to you, this one is for you.
There’s something you did — maybe years ago, maybe more recently — and no matter how much time passes, you can’t seem to put it down. In this episode, Monique unpacks why self-forgiveness is so much harder than we’re told it should be, and what’s really keeping you locked in self-punishment. This isn’t about excusing what happened. It’s about finally understanding the difference between guilt that teaches you something and shame that just keeps you stuck.
It’s been years, and something can still catch you off guard and knock the wind out of you. This episode is for the part of you that’s been quietly ashamed of still feeling it — grief, heartbreak, an old loss — long after you think you’re supposed to be done. There is no timeline. There never was. And this episode explains why.
You already know you’re too hard on yourself. You’ve known it for years. But knowing it hasn’t made it stop — because the real reason behind that relentless inner critic isn’t what most people think. This episode goes underneath the self-criticism to where it actually comes from, and what it would take to finally change your relationship with the voice that never lets you rest.
A dark or disturbing thought arrived out of nowhere and now you can’t stop wondering what it says about you. This episode is the conversation most people never get to have: what intrusive thoughts actually are, why they happen to the most conscientious people, and why the thought itself is not the problem. You are not your worst thought — and this episode will help you actually believe that.
You’ve told yourself a hundred times to stop caring what people think. You know, logically, that you can’t control what anyone thinks of you. And yet — the worry is still there, shaping decisions, stealing sleep, quietly running the show. This episode is about why it’s so hard to actually stop, what your brain is really trying to protect you from, and the shift that finally loosens its grip.
You say you want things to change. And you mean it. So why does part of you keep pulling the brakes just when things start to move? This episode names the thing most people won’t say out loud — that staying stuck has real payoffs — and offers a kinder, more honest way to understand your own resistance before you try to fight through it.
There’s a version of you that got decided a long time ago — and it’s been running the show ever since. This episode looks at the gap between what’s actually true about you and the story you’ve been telling yourself, and why that gap is where everything either opens up or quietly closes down. If you’ve ever felt like you keep bumping into the same ceiling, this one is for you.
You’ve tried to change before. You went big, you started strong, and then life happened and the whole thing fell apart — again. This episode is about why that pattern keeps repeating, and why the answer is almost embarrassingly small. Monique explores the science behind why dramatic gestures don’t stick, and what it actually takes to build
something that lasts.
Most of us spend a huge amount of our lives trying to make people understand us. The long explanation. The third re-phrase. The 3am perfect sentence. The screenshot we send to a friend. The argument we have with our partner for the fifth time.
We think we’re looking for resolution. We’re actually looking for something else. And in this episode, Monique names it — and offers a way to put it down that will quietly change your relationships and your nervous system at the same time.
In this episode:
— The hidden hunger underneath the constant need to be understood
— Why even when people finally agree, the relief only lasts an hour
— Why some people in your life are simply not built to see what you see — and why that doesn’t mean the relationship is broken
— A small, surprisingly powerful practice for witnessing yourself before you go hunting for one outside
There are two kinds of calm. Only one of them is actually calm.
If you have always been the steady one, the soft-voiced one, the one everyone goes to in a crisis, this episode might land differently than you expect. Because some of us are calm because we have worked through what we feel — and some of us are calm because we have spent decades sitting on it.
The difference matters. And it shows up, eventually, in the body.
In this episode:
— The two kinds of calm and how to tell them apart
— Why suppressed anger costs you your boundaries, your desire, and your aliveness
— What the body keeps on your behalf when you don’t
— A small five-minute experiment to find out what you’ve been carrying
— What to do if what comes up is bigger than you expected
If you’ve been writing a gratitude list every morning and nothing in your life feels any different, this episode is for you.
Most gratitude practice is performance dressed up as practice. A list of words that never made it into the body. And it’s why people can do it for years and feel exactly the same.
There is one word missing. One. Once you put it in, the whole practice changes — and it becomes the foundation of a happiness baseline that actually holds.
In this episode:
— Why a gratitude list on its own doesn’t move anything
— The one word that turns gratitude from performance into practice
— How to drop out of the head and into the felt experience
— What spiritual bypass actually looks like
— A one-thing-a-day practice you can start today
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Everything Will Be Alright : Manifesting Reality With Your Thoughts
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Fly Me To The Moon : Why Small Gestures Matter
It can be easy for us to think that we have to contribute in significant ways to make a difference. It couldn’t be further from the truth.
A Reflection On Depression
This podcast is about coping with negative emotions and thoughts. However, it also discusses depression. It is in response to a question. I hope it is helpful.
