Will Smith's incident with Chris Rock at the Academy Awards was disturbing on many levels. I made a podcast about it here that you might find helpful.
However, it can be easy for us to look at him and see his wrongdoing - to see his actions as separate from us. It's easy to stand back and judge from a place of sudden superiority. It can seem almost impossible to look at his actions that night and feel in any small way that you are the same.
But you are.
Of course, the chances of you winning an Oscar are relatively slim. I get it. However, I bet you know this feeling - the feeling that you have a sense of absolute clarity in a moment of being completely triggered. In fact, at that moment, your clarity is so overwhelming that you can't see any other course of action except for the one that this clarity has delivered to you.
And so you act on it.
You act on it with a sense of certainty.
And in the aftermath of acting - all hell breaks loose.
Whatever you say or do hurts someone deeply, and it has consequences, sometimes life-changing, that you can't take back. And over time, the clarity wanes, only to be replaced by a deep sense of remorse and regret.
We may look from afar at a powerful, wealthy Hollywood star and believe that what Will Smith did that night was something so scandalous that we ourselves would never do. And most of us would not act out to such a degree. But mark my words. There's a Will Smith in every single one of us.
That is why training your mind is the most critical work you can do for yourself.