Hi, this is Monique Rhodes. Welcome to the In Your Right Mind Podcast, where we're learning how to be happier by working with our minds.
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When “Fine” Isn’t Enough
A student wrote to me with something many of us quietly feel.
She said,
“My life looks okay. It’s ‘fine.’ But inside, I feel heavy—like I’m carrying things I don’t even need anymore.”
And my heart went out to her.
Layers We Forget to Question
We wrap ourselves in layers.
- Expectations
- Roles
- Habits
- Old identities
- Fear of change
Not because we’re wrong to—but because we forget we were born to fly.
We stay bundled in safety, in the known.
But that safety can turn into stagnation.
A Life We Once Dreamed Of
When we were younger, we dreamed of more.
A life of freedom.
Of creativity.
Of truth.
But instead of soaring, many of us settled.
Not because we couldn’t fly—
But because we convinced ourselves we weren’t ready.
What We Carry That Keeps Us Grounded
These layers can look like:
- Perfectionism
- People-pleasing
- Self-doubt
- Control
- Even “success” and “discipline”
Eventually, they become too heavy.
And something in you starts whispering—
“There must be more.”
The Turning Point
There comes a moment when the weight of staying the same
becomes heavier than the fear of letting go.
That’s when the real work begins.
We start shedding.
Layer by layer.
Doubt by doubt.
Old narrative by old narrative.
You Were Always Meant to Fly
And one day, you’ll find yourself at the edge.
Scared? Yes.
Exposed? Probably.
But ready? No.
You don’t have to be “ready.”
You just have to remember:
You were never meant to stay grounded.
You were always meant to live a big, free, beautiful life.
You were always meant to fly.
I hope this has been helpful.
As always, be kind, take care, and go gently in the world.
