Hi, this is Monique Rhodes. Welcome to the In Your Right Mind Podcast, where we're learning how to be happier by working with our minds.
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The Middle Place
A student came to me recently after ending a long relationship.
They said, “I don’t know what comes next.”
And I could feel the weight of those words—because that not-knowing? It’s deeply uncomfortable.
We’ve all been there—
That strange in-between space.
Not where we started.
Not where we’re going.
Just... suspended.
The Blank Canvas
I call it the blank canvas space.
- Nothing is certain.
- Everything is tender.
- And clarity feels miles away.
It’s the place where our instincts kick in—
- Fix it.
- Solve it.
- Do something.
But what if… we didn’t?
Being Lost Isn’t a Flaw
We say, “I’m lost,” like it’s a failure.
But it’s not.
Being lost is not weakness.
It’s not foolishness.
It’s actually the place where all the growth happens.
That moment of heartbreak, of unraveling—
That’s where life starts whispering truth.
The Power of Not Knowing
When everything falls apart,
We crave control.
But control is often just a distraction from the real work—
The work of being with what is.
Because when you don’t rush to fix your pain,
You learn to know it.
And knowing it softens you.
Not in a fragile way.
In a human way.
Softness is Strength
That softness births compassion—
For others, yes.
But especially for yourself.
There is power in not needing the answers right now.
There is courage in staying present—even in the fog.
Because the strength we’re looking for?
It’s born in the stillness of not knowing.
So if you’re in that middle place—
Stay there.
Trust it.
Let it unfold.
As always, be kind, take care, and go gently in the world.
