Hi, this is Monique Rhodes. Welcome to the In Your Right Mind Podcast, where we're learning how to be happier by working with our minds.
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Invisible Scripts
So often, we’re living in stories we didn’t write.
- The way we handle disappointment.
- The way we navigate closeness.
- The way we silence our needs.
Much of it was written long before we had words—handed down quietly through energy, silence, and survival.
Inherited Patterns
It might show up as:
- Apologizing for needing help.
- Expecting chaos after joy.
- Feeling guilty when resting.
- Tightness when speaking up.
- Fixing everything for everyone.
These aren’t quirks. They’re inherited stories—passed down, often unconsciously.
A Daughter’s Burden
One client grew up in a home where strength was survival.
Her mother never asked for help, never showed pain, and love was shown through sacrifice.
So my client became the dependable one—deeply loved, deeply respected—yet quietly exhausted.
The story she inherited said:
To be loved is to be needed. To be safe is to be useful. To belong is to be strong.
The Silent Retreat
Another client was warm and gentle—until emotions came up. Then he would quietly retreat.
Not because he wanted to, but because in his family vulnerability was weakness.
Crying was pushed away.
So love became holding it all in.
As an adult, he still lived by that script—because it was the only story he knew.
Breaking the Cycle
Sometimes we repeat the stories exactly.
Sometimes we rebel against them.
But either way—they own us until we notice.
And noticing is the beginning.
Noticing isn’t blame.
It’s love.
It’s the courage to pause and ask: Is this mine?
Writing New Stories
You are not the beginning of your story—but you can be the turning point.
- The peacekeeper learning peace isn’t silence.
- The giver learning love doesn’t have to be earned.
- The one who disappears learning to take up space.
These old stories kept you safe. But they don’t always keep you happy.
And it’s okay to lay them down—with love.
Because you’re allowed to write something new.
As always, be kind, take care, and go gently in the world.
