Is Self-Development Making You Selfish? Why“Working on Yourself” Might Be Backfiring

By Monique Rhodes

August 27, 2025


In a world obsessed with healing, boundaries, and becoming your “highest self,” it’s easy to lose sight of something essential: other people. In this episode, we explore how the self-help industry may be quietly fueling self-absorption—and why the science (and ancient wisdom) tells us that true happiness lies not in endless self-focus, but in connection, compassion, and turning toward others. If you’ve been doing all the “inner work” but still feel disconnected, this conversation might be exactly what you need.

Read the full podcast transcript here.

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