Hi, this is Monique Rhodes. Welcome to the In Your Right Mind podcast, where we’re learning how to be happier by working with our minds. If you’d like to know more about what I teach, visit moniquerhodes.com. We have amazing courses and The Happiness Club, where I teach live each month. It’s only a dollar to join for the first month, and I’d love to see you there.
Why Wait?
A student recently told me she wasn’t living as the person she wanted to be. She looked at her life and felt like she was waiting for the right conditions to become her best self. My question to her was simple: Why are you waiting? Why are you putting off the life you dream of until some distant day in the future when conditions feel perfect? The future you long for isn’t waiting for you—it’s waiting for you to create it.
Living the Future Now
One of the most powerful things you can do is live as though you’re already in the future you desire. This doesn’t mean faking it—it means aligning your present with the values, energy, and vision you want to define your life. By doing so, you embody the person you’re meant to be and create purpose, happiness, and fulfillment in the present.
I often tell the story of a man I met in Sydney who had gone bankrupt. Despite having no money, he chose to live as though he were already successful. He moved to an expensive neighborhood, drove a luxury car, and carried himself with the confidence of someone who had already achieved his goals. While this approach might not work for everyone, his belief in his future self propelled him forward. In a short time, he regained the success he envisioned.
The Habits That Shape Us
We’re always becoming—constantly evolving—whether we realize it or not. The habits you practice today, the mindset you nurture, and the choices you make are shaping the person you’ll become. If you want to know who you’ll be tomorrow, look at who you are today. The future isn’t a far-off place—it’s the accumulation of your actions, thoughts, and intentions.
Living as though you’re already the person you want to be allows you to take control of that process. Instead of waiting for life to shape you, you begin to shape life.
Happiness Starts Now
Many of us fall into the trap of saying, I’ll be happy when…
- When I land the job.
- When I lose the weight.
- When I find the relationship.
But attaching happiness to future events creates a gap filled with doubt, frustration, and delay. By living the future now, you close that gap. You allow yourself to feel happiness, confidence, and purpose today. Happiness isn’t something you achieve when you arrive—it’s the fuel that gets you there.
The World Reflects Who You Are
The world responds to who you are, not who you say you’ll be. When you embody the qualities of your future self, you send a powerful signal. People don’t just hear your words—they feel your energy, confidence, and intentions. Living the future now isn’t about faking it—it’s about believing in yourself so fully that the world begins to believe in you too. This alignment attracts opportunities, connections, and progress.
Resilience Through Setbacks
When you live as though you’re already in the future you desire, setbacks lose their power. They stop feeling like endings and start feeling like steps along the way. Challenges become part of the process, not signs of failure. This mindset creates resilience, helping you navigate missteps and detours with grace and determination.
Breaking Free From Waiting
Too often, we wait for the “right” time, the “right” opportunity, or the “right” version of ourselves to emerge. But life doesn’t wait. The time to begin isn’t tomorrow—it’s now. When you live as though you’re already there, you reclaim your power. You stop waiting for external circumstances to align and start aligning yourself with your goals and dreams.
A Mindset of Abundance
Living the future now isn’t just about progress—it’s about emotional freedom. It’s about letting go of the belief that happiness, success, or fulfillment are somewhere in the distance. When you live as though you’ve already arrived, you step into a mindset of abundance. You see possibilities instead of obstacles, growth instead of failure, and happiness instead of lack. This perspective is transformative and healing.
The Journey, Not the Destination
Happiness doesn’t come from achieving your dreams—it comes from embodying them. It’s not the end result that fulfills us but the process of living in alignment with our values, purpose, and vision. Living the future now means you’re not chasing happiness—you’re practicing it. Confidence, kindness, curiosity, and strength become present in your daily life.
Why Wait?
The future isn’t something you find—it’s something you create. It starts with the decision to live today as the person you want to be tomorrow. Align your actions, thoughts, and habits with your vision. When you do, you stop waiting for life to happen and start becoming the architect of your own experience.
The future you long for isn’t far away—it’s within you. The moment you begin living it, you’ll realize it was never about reaching a destination. It was about transforming the journey into something worth living.
A Final Invitation
I hope this has been helpful. If you’re ready to step into the future you desire, join me in The Happiness Club. It’s an amazing community where we work together to create lives filled with meaning and joy.
As always, be kind, take care, and go gently in the world.
