Hi, this is Monique Rhodes. Welcome to the In Your Right Mind podcast, where we’re learning how to be happier by working with our minds. If you’d like to know more about what I teach, come to moniquerhodes.com and find all the information there. Let’s work together to get you on track to be happier.
The Profound Truth of Wholeness
The other night, a friend of mine said something that stopped me in my tracks: “I have everything I need to be fully myself.” It’s such a simple statement, but it carries a truth so profound that it deserves to be unpacked, examined, and, most importantly, lived.
This statement challenges the world’s constant messaging that we need more—more success, more validation, more possessions, more self-improvement. It invites us to stop chasing and start recognizing that who we are at our core isn’t something to be built, fixed, or proven. It’s something we already are.
The Mindset of Scarcity
From an early age, we are surrounded by messages that tell us we’re not enough.
- Advertisements say we need better clothes, skin, or gadgets to be worthy.
- Society tells us we need more achievements, bigger salaries, or more accolades to feel successful.
- Even in our personal lives, we believe we must be more confident, skilled, or likable to feel valued.
This is the mindset of scarcity—a belief that we are incomplete. It keeps us in a constant state of striving, chasing things outside of ourselves that we think will make us whole. But the truth is, this chasing never ends. The feeling of “not enough” isn’t solved by getting more. It’s solved by realizing that enough has been within us all along.
The Courage to Trust in Your Wholeness
Saying, “I have everything I need to be fully myself,” is an act of courage. It’s a deliberate choice to step off the treadmill of comparison and scarcity and trust in your own wholeness.
This doesn’t mean we stop growing or learning—growth is a beautiful part of life. But growth isn’t about fixing something broken; it’s about nurturing something that’s already whole. When we embrace this mindset, our pursuit of improvement shifts from proving our worth to expressing our wholeness.
Reclaiming Your Power
When we believe we need something outside ourselves to feel whole, we give our power away.
- We let external circumstances dictate our sense of worth.
- We tell ourselves: I’ll be confident when I get that job. I’ll be happy when I lose weight. I’ll feel secure when I’m in a relationship.
But even when we achieve these things, the feeling of “not enough” doesn’t magically disappear. It just shifts to the next thing. The antidote isn’t achieving more—it’s realizing that the self you’re trying to become already exists. You don’t have to wait for permission, validation, or milestones to claim it.
Recognizing Your Inner Qualities
Think about the qualities you admire in others—confidence, kindness, resilience, creativity. Now ask yourself: What if those qualities already exist in me? What if they’ve been here all along, waiting for me to notice them?
If you admire something in someone else, it’s because a seed of that quality exists within you. We often think the traits we long for are missing, but more often, they’re already present. We just haven’t given ourselves permission to let them shine.
- Confidence doesn’t come from perfection—it comes from self-trust.
- Resilience doesn’t come from avoiding hardship—it comes from facing it with courage.
- Creativity doesn’t come from having all the answers—it comes from allowing yourself to explore and experiment.
When we recognize these qualities as part of us, we stop waiting and start living.
Happiness as Recognition
Happiness isn’t about adding to who we are—it’s about uncovering and embracing who we’ve always been. It’s about realizing that the self we’re striving to become is already here, and the things we think we need to find are already within us.
When we stop chasing and start recognizing, happiness becomes less elusive. We’re no longer waiting for external conditions to align perfectly. Instead, we create happiness by living authentically, trusting ourselves, and showing up fully in the world.
A Declaration of Self-Trust
To say, “I have everything I need to be fully myself,” is to free yourself from the constant pressure to prove, chase, or perform. It’s a declaration of self-trust and self-acceptance. But it’s also an invitation—an invitation to live fully, love deeply, and embrace the messy, imperfect, beautiful truth of who you are.
When you stop looking outside yourself for answers, you begin to see the incredible resources within you. The strength, wisdom, and love you’ve been searching for have been yours all along.
This is where happiness lives—not in some distant, perfected version of yourself, but right here, in the wholeness of who you already are.
I hope this has been helpful. As always, be kind, take care, and go gently in the world.
